Saturday, April 9, 2016

Dating



Dating is complicated, and getting more complicated every year. Talk with you kids about the standards you believe are best for dating. Discuss the age they can start, if it is in group dates or single dates, if they have a limit on how many times they can date the same person in a row, etc. Just as importantly, talk to them about the feelings associated with dating. This is a time of increased hormones and often times they don't know how to decifer them. Below are some quotes that might help.


Quotes:

President Monson: “Decisions determine destiny. That is why it is worthwhile to look ahead, to set a course, to be at least partly ready when the moment of decision comes.”

Mature love leads to success in marriage and family life while immature love does not support success in marriage and family life.

Marvin J. Ashton: “True love is a process. True love requires personal action. Love must be continuing to be real. Love takes time. Too often expediency, infatuation, stimulation, persuasion, or lust are mistaken for love. How hollow, how empty if our love is no deeper than the arousal of momentary feeling or the expression in words of what is no more lasting than the time it takes to speak them.”




Emotion

Immature Love
         Possessiveness
         Jealousy
         Infatuation
         Preoccupation
         Anxiety 

Mature Love
         Lasting Passion
         Desire for Companionship
         Warm Feeling of Contentment

Belief

Immature Love
         “Love is Blind”
         Love is External to us
         “Cupid’s Arrow”
         Love is beyond our control 

Mature Love
         Love is something you have to “decide”
         Love means –commitment, trust, sharing sacrifice

Behavior

Immature Love
         Selfish
         Lustful
         Concern only for satisfying own needs
         Clinging
         Over-dependent
         Demanding obedience from partner 

 Mature Love
         Creates an Environment of growth and development
         Allows partner space for growth 

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